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Sweet Nanaimo Bars and Bittersweet Memories by Liz Hughes of Virtually Homemade

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The Nanaimo Bar is a wonderfully unique and sumptuous dessert that originates on Vancouver Island, which happens to be where most of my husband’s family lives. Nanaimo Bars are rarely seen in the US.  The Bar’s cult following and ubiquitous presence in Canada has yet to entice America’s palate.  Somehow I feel responsible to share this recipe with you!

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The eSSSence of Liz Hughes

Style: My sense of style these days needs a little help. A day revolving around the dog park, cooking, writing, walking and chauffeuring my kids lends itself to more comfortable and durable clothes. I love a comfortable pair of jeans and dress in mostly grays, tans and sagey green. However, I do really enjoy taking out the ponytail and dressing up for an evening out with nice clothes, make-up and perfume!
Substance: I really enjoy what I do for a living but I don't get paid. I have spent years on my children's school PTA board, softball board, basketball teams, helping children read and leaving my comfortable community bubble to feed the homeless. My payment is a thank you, a little confidence building compliment and seeing my children grow up into fine young adults.
Soul: I feel like a very spiritual person. I truly believe that there are greater forces guiding and watching over me. I pray to send out positive energy to the ones I love in times of need and to help myself address my own anxieties and insecurities. I'm certain it helps keep everything in order!


Little Books, Big Messages by Vicky Tarulis

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Vicky TarulisWhile recently dusting stacks of all the little books on my shelves, I thought, once again, “I really should read these some day.” Many of them had been gifts, and some were purchased from the local library bookstore. Unwilling to read the 1100 pages of my book club selection after just finishing a 657 pager the previous month, I had an “aha” moment and decided to read one little book each day for 31 days.

I gathered up all 70 of my little books. After typing a list of titles, I cut out individual slips of paper and placed them in a Anna Quindlenbasket for a daily random drawing. Based on titles like Simple Truth, A Gift of Inner Peace, A Short Guide to a Happy Life and It’s Not Easy Being Green, I expected some of the tiny tomes would simply be filled with humor and pretty pictures while others would contain wisdom and insight.

The Challenge began on June 27. Each morning, I highlighted the daily selection on Facebook, followed by a brief book report the next morning. My first pick was Furry Logic: Laugh at Life by Jane Seabrook. Chock-full of colorful renditions of animals with one- or two-liners such as: “Every time I hear the word ‘exercise,’ I wash my mouth out with chocolate,” and “At the end of the money, I always have some month left.” Surprisingly, some of the aphorisms went beyond a chuckle and contained some genuine substance.

On day 11, I chose The Energy of Prayer by Thich Nhat Hanh. According to Hanh, we pray because we want God to do something. Whatever their beliefs, all people tend to pray for the same three things: health, success and relationships. In all cases, prayers need the energies of compassion, understanding and mindfulness for wisdom to arise. This small book left me contemplating not only the power of an individual’s requests, but what could be accomplished by collective prayer.

As the days passed, I was surprised that each book was, in its own way, becoming part of me – even on days 13 and 25, which had me laughing out loud with What’s Your Poo Telling You? by Josh Richman and Anish Shelth, M.D. and The Joy of Worry by Ellis Weiner.

Letters to Sam, by Daniel Gottlieb, took two days to read and report, not because it was a long book but because I wanted to savor it. The 32 letters written from the heart by a paraplegic grandfather to his autistic grandson were filled with poignant and insightful observations of life. The letters provided profound lessons on love, loss and life’s gifts and challenges. This book touched my heart and would be a great choice for parents to read aloud to their children.

Although the challenge began because I did not want to read a lengthy novel, by the time I completed all 31 books, I had read over 3400 pages. Along the way, I learned how to be a better friend, how to be a lady, how good and bad karma works, how to achieve inner peace and even how to set a table properly. What I really learned from these diminutive gems was what is most important in life: To be present in everything I do and always act from my heart.

Forty little books remain, waiting to be read, maybe in another challenge. I encourage all to sit down and explore the insightful, encouraging and supportive world of a little book. To quote 50 Things That Really Matter, “Next time a good book finds you, take a moment to give thanks for how one object, no bigger than the span of two palms, can contain so much of the world, teach you so much of what it means to be human, and make you feel so alive.”


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Rebuilding Lives, One Handbag at a Time by Louise van Broekhuizen

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In Indonesian, “laga” means beautiful, and Laga handbags — which you can find on the arms of many celebrities — are absolutely worthy of their name. We remember seeing these bags on Oprah, and “ooh”-ing and “ah”-ing not just over the gorgeous designs lovingly embroidered by the women of Indonesia but also over the amazing backstory of the couple who founded the company. Roy and Louise van Broekhuizen, Californians of Indonesian descent, were called upon to help out when the devastating tsunami hit in 2004, and while they were there, they came up with a brilliant way for the local women to use their skills to rebuild their community and create a sustainable economy. We were so moved by their story, we asked Louise to tell us more. You will be so inspired by her words — and the harrowing tales of the tsunami survivors, which you can read on the Laga website — you will want to own one of these handbags. Go ahead and buy — this is a no-guilt purchase. By shopping Laga, you are empowering and giving hope to people who have literally lost everything else.

“It’s not about you.”

These are the first words in the book, The Purpose Driven Life, written by Rick Warren, who happens to be my pastor. They are words that made a huge impact on my husband Roy and me. But, as we learned firsthand, it takes more than just words to truly make a difference in the lives of others. It takes action.

Roy and Louise van BroekhuizenAnd so Roy and I were compelled to say “yes” when we received a call from our church’s Missions Department in January 2005, two weeks following the Boxing Day tsunami whose epicenter was nearest to Banda Aceh, Sumatra, Indonesia, to participate in the initial relief work.

We’d never been there. We didn’t know what to expect. We knew nothing about disaster relief or what we were supposed to do. And we didn’t know that this would turn out to be the worst disaster known in our lifetime.

At first, Roy led medical teams to the affected area and we had no communication between us. Working at my job, underwriting mortgage loans, helped keep me busy instead of letting my mind trick me into thinking that something might go terribly wrong since I hadn’t heard from him for weeks on end.

When he returned home from a trip, I would hear finally hear the heart-wrenching stories about the people he was helping that left us both crying many nights. And then he would be gone again, taking another team on another mission to help provide medical care and food and water and housing for those who were left behind.

After a few weeks we were able to start communicating, and I would sit at my computer, tears streaming down my face, as I read his emails:

“… children taken to orphanages daily; many parents don’t know where their kids are or if they even survived …”

“… large puddles of water, stagnant, not safe so people filling by hand with buckets …”

“… children are collecting bricks and knocking off cement and selling for 100Rp (.01 cent) so families can buy fuel to cook …”

“… 10 year old girl has been bleeding from her nose for two days and the family didn’t have funds to take her to the clinic; we were able to assist and she is now better …”

“… Red Cross volunteer was shot today …”

“… all fuel costs have increased in country by 50-100%, protesting breaking out – please pray for everyone’s safety …”

“… draining system totally broken, dangerous for travel …”

“… bodies still being recovered, 250-300 per day …”

“… mass grave with estimated 36,000 unidentified bodies, some stacked 20 deep …” … read full story →


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The eSSSence of Louise van Broekhuizen

Style: I never really understood why people spent so much time putting on makeup and shopping for nice clothes until pleasing others became important to me. I now make it a point to look my best whenever possible.
Substance: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Thank you, Theodore Roosevelt.
Soul: God is my center. He is my ground and my sky. Without Him, I am unbalanced and without purpose. I AM a purpose-driven woman.


Why I’m Walking for the Cure by Kelly Wagner

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We met Kelly Wagner when we went to the Oprah season premiere last September and were immediately drawn to her enthusiasm and passion. We were lucky enough to spend time with her in Australia -- the girl is a firecracker! When she told us she was going to be walking... read full story →


Chasing in a Deadly Season: A Stormchaser’s Perspective by Author Jenna Blum

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This has been a deadly year for weather. After watching the horrifying footage of tornadoes destroy lives, homes, whole towns. I was writing this piece in a Kansas City, MO hotel room the morning of May 25th when my friend Peggy Willenberg called.  Peggy’s one of the Twister Sisters, a dynamic... read full story →


One Foot in Front of the Other by Tanaya Winder

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Tanaya Winder writes a beautiful blog, Letters From a Young Poet, with the goal of "trying to make sense of the world one image, phrase, or word at a time ..." Here, she shares with us her personal story of how a friend's disease transformed her own life -- and... read full story →


Mom’s Chicken Divan by Jennifer Simpson

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The cold, blustery Saturday brought thoughts of hearty warm soups and oven-baked casseroles as I searched for the perfect recipe to use up three pounds of asparagus and welcome some friends to my new apartment. Flipping through back issues of Cooking Light, I was tempted by Cream of Asparagus Soup, but... read full story →